Psychotherapy offered in Ventura, CA + Remotely Online
Whether you choose to meet with me in my Ventura office location or online via webcam, we begin at the surface getting acclimated and then delve in more deeply as you are ready. I understand that the therapy process can be intimidating for some and there is no one-size-fits-all.
I provide an eclectic blend of a variety of psychotherapy approaches tailored for each individual or couple. Throughout all of my work with clients, I believe in the healing power of honoring your own inner voice, passions, strength, intuition, culture and values as your guide.
The clients who benefit the most are committed to personal growth and deepening their understanding of both themselves and their personal relationships.
Anxiety (in its many forms) is my specialty.
Anxiety appears in our lives in a variety of forms and levels of severities. Anxiety might express itself in the form of:
Panic, chronic worry, what-ifs, over-thinking, overwhelm, emotional meltdowns, compulsions, addictions, relationship conflict, people pleasing, short temper, feeling disconnected, feeling needy, high sensitivity to environment, performance anxiety, sexual issues, self-doubt, indecision, low self-worth, challenging relational and family dynamics, codependency, trouble sleeping, nightmares, physical health concerns, somatization, perfectionism, procrastination and much more.
Severe anxiety can be frightening and paralyzing and can feel like it overwhelms your mind and body. While it builds over time, it can also come on suddenly with many stressors, pressures, & expectations, "trying to keep it all together," or trying to please everyone (but yourself). “One more straw on the camel's back” can manifest as any of the above anxiety symptoms.
I am here to support you and help you rediscover your calm, centered inner guidance system, work through and understand the anxiety at its roots rather than disregarding it or letting those anxious parts of your psyche run your life. I offer a variety of strategies, tools, and exercises to help people who struggle with anxiety reclaim their lives, learning new ways of regulating it, and experience relief in both the short term and long term.
My clients also come to me looking for extra support in the following areas (click the arrows to read more):
Whether the spark has significantly dampened or emotional reactivity has one or both of you acting in ways you are not proud of, sounds like your relationship is asking for attention, reconnection, and nurturance. Often couples who love each other deeply can find themselves stuck in impasse, where each partner feels unseen, unheard and unappreciated, thereby reacting, getting defensive, pleading or avoiding, tuning each other out, or turning their attention outside the relationship.
Misunderstandings, assumptions, and resentment build which erode intimacy. Integrating a combination of techniques, I help partners communicate their feelings and be heard by one another, facilitate understanding and compasssion, neutralize built-up resentment, so you can again experience connection and the enjoyment of your partner's beloved qualities. Straight, gay and lesbian couples welcome. You may choose to attend together or to work on the concerns individually.
What were the messages you received about sex growing up? Many people unfortunately received negative or conflicting messages, or that it was something "you don't talk about," leaving people to unreliable sources of information or confusing early experiences. Many people also have experienced some degree of sexual trauma, which can profoundly affect their sense of self, intimate relationships with others, sense of healthy sexuality, etc. Understandably, it can be difficult for people to talk about. Plus, victims often experience additional trauma when they've spoken about it and people haven't believed them or acted to help protect them. Sometimes victims are themselves blamed. Due to a variety of circumstances, sexual issues and trauma are often left unresolved. People sometimes think that they have to "just move on" or deal with it on their own. If this rings true for you, I invite you to take the next step and talk with me. I am here to support your healing and to help you feel safe and good in your body again.
You entered into your field because you wanted to help people. It gives you a sense of purpose, deep satisfaction, and meaning in life. It’s no accident you were called to your vocation. Perhaps you were the person in your family that was the caretaker of others. Or you witnessed others suffering and wanted to be able to help, but didn’t have the means yet.
Now you are successfully helping and responding to others who are experiencing a great deal of physical and emotional pain, but you find yourself feeling more tired than you used to. Sometimes you feel you just don’t have the bandwidth, patience or energy expected of you. You notice it’s harder to find the time to cook, eat as healthy as you'd like, exercise, have time for yourself & with loved ones, or to do the things you most enjoy doing. Maybe you even find your self gettting more easily irritated, frustrated, and judging yourself harshly. Your try to "pick yourself up by your boot straps and solider on" but the feeling continues.
This is a common experience of medical and service professionals and first responders of all kinds. You’ve heard “put your own oxygen mask on first”, but you rarely take this advice. Maybe you are not sure how to do so or what that looks like for you.
I understand the complexities and delicate nature of your field and offer you a safe, confidnential, non-judgmental place to share the weight you've been carrying about your experiences, thoughts, feelings, concerns and find the opportunities to revitalize, recharge, and recenter, which will in turn, benefit all the people in your personal and professional life you care for.
I help people who are passionate and intrigued with their family genealogy to process and integrate their new discoveries, some of which may be exciting and others that may challenge what they thought they knew about their family and identity.
We can develop a deeper sense of identity and contextual understanding of ourselves through exploring the influences and patterns of our multigenrational family system. As a professor in family systems therapy with a personal passion for genealogy and intuitive ancestral healing, I provide support, guidance, and insight through the process as we identify intergenertional pattersn, and facilitate growth and healing of current and past relationships.
While there are many organic causes for health symptoms, there are also mental/emotional/spiritual/energetic aspects that contribute to physical dis-comfort and dis-ease. Using specialized mind-body techniques and somatic approaches, I can work in conjunction with your physcial health professionals to support your overall health and wellbeing by addressing these emotional aspects, understand what your body may be communicating.
Some people are born and/or conditioned through a variety of circumstances to be more emotional and sensitive to their environment than others. Often they might also tend to be more introverted and more intuitively inclined, and therefore have different needs, but often their needs and inclinations have been discounted, judged or unrecognized.
If this sounds like you, I help the more sensitive, introverted, intuitive types learn to better recognize and honor your own needs and set protective boundaries when and where needed. I help you learn to surf the waves of emotion you feel rather than getting overwhelmed by them (or judging, bottling or numbing them, etc). And sometimes, the emotions you pick up on are not even your own but others' in your environment, and you feel them anyway. I will help you discern the difference and learn ways to recognize and discharge what's not yours in a healthy way.
I also help people who say yes too often because they are kind and loving (but then find themselves feeling burned out or resentful) to recognize when they need to say no, and feel good about it as an act of self-love as well as for the good of others.
Does this sound like you? If so, you are in the right place :)
I help my clients feel expansive enough to make choices based on what is genuine, rather than feeling weighed down by old conditioning/social pressure/people-pleasing. Often, even after just one or two sessions, my clients tell me that they "feel like a weight has been lifted off."
To find out if I might be a good match as your therapist, or to decide whether psychotherapy or coaching is the right choice for you, click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation.
Or are you ready to dive-in and get started with your first appointment?
I provide support for straight, gay, lesbian, and/or trans couples in the following areas:
Pre-marital and pre-cohabitation counseling
Navigating identities, roles, family and expectations
Rekindling the spark
Sexual issues, compatibilities, past trauma
Repairing misunderstandings, tension and resentment
Improving communication and healing emotional volatility
Often couples who love each other deeply can find themselves at a point where they can no longer truly hear each other, reacting, getting defensive, avoidant, and/or tuning each other out, and therefore neither partner feels heard, understood, or appreciated. Misunderstandings, assumptions, and resentment build which erode intimacy.
I integrate several therapeutic approaches (i.e. emotionally-focused couples therapy) and techniques to help partners reconnect, communicate and be heard and appreciated by one another, as well as decrease emotional reactivity so you can experience the enjoyment of each other’s beloved qualities again. You may choose to attend together or to work on the presenting issues individually